What is Sexual Abuse?
Sexual abuse involves unwanted sexual activities performed without the victim’s consent, often involving force or threats. The reactions to sexual abuse can include fear, shock, and disbelief. Long-term effects may involve anxiety, fear, or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
What is Sexual Assault?
Sexual assault can take many forms, such as oral sex, inappropriate touching, rape, forceful kisses, and any touching without consent. It includes abuse, molestation, and other intolerable behaviors.
What is Sexual Trauma?
Sexual trauma occurs when someone experiences great stress due to inappropriate sexual behavior, affecting their emotional and psychological well-being.
Is Healing from Sexual Abuse Possible at Any Age?
Absolutely, healing is possible at any age. If you’ve experienced sexual abuse, assault, or trauma, remember that healing is within your reach. It’s essential to know that what happened was not your fault. The blame lies solely with the perpetrator. You did nothing wrong and you are not alone. There’s a lot of help available if you choose to seek it. Accepting what happened is a crucial step. Allow yourself to feel emotions like crying or mistrust; these feelings are valid. By acknowledging your experiences and caring for yourself, you begin your healing journey. Acceptance, though challenging, is the first step toward moving forward. You can lead a vibrant, beautiful life once you reclaim your power. Having faith in yourself enables you to choose self-care and healing.
My Journey: From Pain to Healing
I understand these feelings deeply, as I have walked this path myself. My journey has been one of pain, acceptance, and ultimately, healing. For a long time, I felt trapped by my past, burdened by the trauma of sexual abuse. The journey to healing was not easy, but it was possible. I learned to accept what had happened and began to forgive myself, even though there was nothing to forgive. This acceptance was the first step in reclaiming my life and power.
Healing began when I chose to see myself not as a victim but as a survivor. By embracing self-love and compassion, I transformed my life and began helping others do the same. I want you to know that you too can find this strength within you.
5 Steps to Heal from Sexual Abuse/Assault:
- Get Your Feelings Out:
Find a trusted friend or a professional to talk to. Sharing your feelings with someone who listens without judgment can make a big difference. Many mental health professionals offer talk therapy, which can help you process your emotions and start healing. - Journaling:
Journaling can be a therapeutic way to express your thoughts and emotions about your experiences. Research shows that suppressing these feelings can harm your mental health. Writing helps you process stress and integrate your experiences into a healing narrative. - Reclaim Your Power:
Trauma can make you feel powerless and vulnerable. Remind yourself of your strengths and coping mechanisms. Engage in activities that help others, like donating blood or volunteering. Helping others can empower you and counter feelings of helplessness. - Start a Spiritual Practice:
Daily practices like yoga, tai chi, or meditation can help you become more aware of your body and alleviate symptoms of PTSD and trauma. Mindfulness meditation, whether while walking or eating, helps you stay present and manage emotions without judgment. - Nurture Yourself:
Taking time to relax and restore your balance is essential. Avoid overwhelming yourself with activities and steer clear of media that may trigger bad memories. Focus on good nutrition, regular exercise, and adequate rest to support your healing.
Books that Can Help:
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk
- The Sexual Healing Journey by Wendy Maltz
- Recovery of Your Inner Child by Lucia Cappchione
Final Thoughts:
One of the most important parts of recovery is to remind yourself that the blame does not lie with you. Be determined to heal and let go of what no longer serves you. Empower yourself with love and compassion, and you’ll find the beauty in the present moment. With faith and patience, you will see how grace can return to your life.
Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination. Take each step with courage and know that you are supported and loved.
Helpful Resources:
In the U.S.: National Sexual Assault Hotline – Call 1-800-656-HOPE or chat online. (RAINN)
UK: Find Your Nearest Rape Crisis Services – Call the rape crisis helpline at 0808-802-9999 or find your nearest facility (Rape Crisis)
Australia: Services and Support – Call the national helpline at 1800-737-732 or find services near you. (1800RESPECT)
Canada: Rape Crisis Centres – Find a hotline or crisis center near you. (Canadian Women’s Health Network)
If you are looking to heal your sexual trauma – Book a FREE 30 MIN Consultation With Me.