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Welcome to another episode of Supercharge Your Soul’s Transformation podcast today.

I’m going to talk about this topic that really changed my outlook towards my relationships with people.

And I’m gonna change a lot of things for you on this podcast.

I will keep it quick so that you exactly can reflect on what you need to change within you.

This podcast is going to help you have a better relationship with your spouse, with your partner, with your parents, your children, your friends, you name it.

So if you have had issues in your relationships with other people and you constantly think that it’s them, that’s the reason why you are feeling emotionally down or it’s them and that’s why you feel sad or they are doing something and that’s why you’re angry and irritated and frustrated.

Guess what you are at the right place in today’s episode.

I’m going to break it down for you.

A concept that I came across and which helped me transform my relationships with other people.

And I’m going to call it in a statement.

The statement is, is, let me tell you this because this is going to blow up your mind this statement is called I am you, you are me.

And what does this mean?

This means that if you are irritated, frustrated, angry because of another person, the reason you’re irritated, frustrated, angry is because that other person is showing you your own negativity out into the reality, which means you when you’re interacting with this other person and it’s making you upset, you’re basically seeing your own shadows, your own, deep down hidden self that you haven’t really worked on your own wounds, your own negative side in that person, because that person is your mirror.

So here is what I want you to do.

I want you to pick five things that you do not like in a person.

Let’s say it’s your partner and you do not like five things about your partner.

I want you to write them down after you write down these five things.

OK? So pause this podcast.

If you’re listening to this podcast, write down five things you hate about this person.

You do not like about this person, xyz.

And then here is what I want you to do.

I want you to read that first statement.

Like I don’t like my partner because let’s say he’s very messy.

OK? And here is what you’re going to do, then you’re going to ask yourself and you got to be incredibly honest and authentic without any filtered approach for this particular exercise, because only then it’s going to work, then you’re gonna ask yourself when?

So from the day that I was born until today, when was I a messy person or in what situations or context or environment?

Have I also been a messy person?

Maybe I’m not messy at work, but maybe I’m messy at home.

Maybe I keep the kitchen clean, but I don’t keep the bathroom clean.

You see what I’m saying?

So you got to find where in your life have you also exhibited this behavior?

And I guarantee you this from the time that you were born until today, no matter what age you are at, you probably also exhibited the same behavior.

You also did it.

The only thing that your intellect will tell you is oh, but maybe my husband is messy, like 100% of the time, maybe you’re less messy.

Like maybe you exhibit this behavior once or twice or 30% of the time or maybe you don’t show it right now, but you did show it in the past.

So the context doesn’t matter, the situation doesn’t matter.

The intensity doesn’t matter.

The only thing that matters is, were you ever a messy person?

If the answer is yes, it’s just a yes and a no question.

You do not have to give explanations.

You do not have to be defensive.

You do not have to tell me a story you need to tell yourself was I ever a messy person from the time I was born until today.

Reflect on your past.

When you reflect on the past, the past is going to tell you a story and the story will give you an answer and the answer is yes.

OK? When the answer comes as yes.

All right. Great. Move on to the next point.

OK. So I’m just going to do one more example here.

Let’s say you do not like your mom that criticizes you.

So what are you gonna do?

You’re gonna write.

I don’t like my mom because she criticizes me.

Now, reflected on yourself from the time that I was born until today.

Did I ever intentionally or unintentionally to a stranger or to my partner or to my kids, to anybody in the world?

Did I ever exhibited this behavior?

The answer is going to be yes, you may say oh but I did it like once in my lifetime, it doesn’t matter, right?

Like I said, context doesn’t matter.

Environment doesn’t matter.

Intensity doesn’t matter.

Like how many times have you been criticizing others?

Maybe you do like rarely but maybe your mom did like does it all the time but at least the answer comes as yes and then you’re going to keep going down the list.

So you see what I’m saying when you start seeing, oh my goodness, everything that I hate about or do not like about or dislike about this other person is also in me.

I also have that same behavior in me and boom.

After you go through this list of five things with one person, do it with a couple of other people and you will understand that whatever you do not like or you hate in another person is a reflection of who you are because others are simply your mirror.

They are just showing you things that you need to work on within yourself.

That’s why emotionally you will be charged up emotionally.

You feel angry and upset about things and that is because it’s, it’s a reflection on what you need to work on in this lifetime before you die.

So I’m just going to keep this podcast super short because I wanted to make it into a how to, which is how can you change your relationship with others by doing this one exercise and this is a very powerful exercise.

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