Transcription

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Welcome to today’s episode where we are diving deep into what’s possible on the other side of feeling stuck.

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So many women find themselves trapped in roles or situations that don’t align with who they truly are, and it can feel like there’s no way out.

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But on the other side of that struggle lies freedom and empowerment and endless possibility today.

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We are joined by an incredible expert coach who is going to guide us through that journey.

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She’ll share the mindset shifts, the strategies, and practical tools that can help you break free and step into your full potential.

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So, if you’re ever felt stuck, this conversation is for you.

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So today, I’m excited to introduce our incredible guest.

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Again, for the 2nd time, Dr.

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Alex Baks Channon.

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She has been here before, and she, if you don’t know her, I want you to go and listen to her first podcast that she did with us and I’m definitely going to put it on the show notes.

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So if you don’t know her, she’s based out of California.

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She brings a deep understanding of both the traditional medical world and alternative healing practices.

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Dr.

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Alex is passionate about helping people navigate their health journeys and believes that true healing comes from embracing every part of life’s path.

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Today she’ll be sharing her insights on how to break free from feeling stuck and what’s possible on the other side of the fence.

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So, welcome to the show, Dr.

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Alex.

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I’m so excited that you’re here again with us for the 2nd time.

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Hello, dimple.

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Hello, everyone.

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So nice to talk to you today.

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Yay, so Doctor Alex, I need to first of all understand from you what it really means to feel stuck in your experience as a coach, what are some of the most common barriers that hold women back?

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How can we begin recognizing those barriers in our own lives?

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So from the coaching perspective, it’s kind of easy.

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It’s not about the situation we are in, but it is about the thoughts that we have about the situation.

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So for example, people feel stuck because they’re married, and there are people feel stuck because they’re single and they cannot start life.

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So,, their general status, it’s not a reason to feel stuck, but once we start feeling stuck, that it creates like an avalanche of consequences because if someone thinks I am stuck, they can have different feelings related to it, so someone may be sad and they would do what sad people do.

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, someone can feel very anxious, and they will start doing things that anxious people do and will not do certain things that anxious people do, and each of us can answer.

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, depending on what situation we feel stuck with, what would be those feelings, and then the actions and the actions that we take.

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The other example may be for people who decide to live in a different country.

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Yes, we have a chance to think it’s opportunity.

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Most of the people who move here think that was a big opportunity.

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A lot of us waited for visas in different ways.

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People can also say I’m stuck here because I don’t have my family, I don’t have the support, I don’t have my friends.

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I don’t know the culture.

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So,, all of it will Change how we live that life.

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The first thought we have would change how the life will look like, and we have total control over our thoughts.

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Wow, OK, so basically you’re saying for someone who just got an opportunity, if we get a thought like wow, I’m in a new country, it’s a whole different feeling than a person who’s here, has been here many years, hasn’t seen their family, and the thought feels like I’m so stuck.

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So it’s the same, same situation, but two people take it as differently, right?

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Yeah, and from the start they grow it differently.

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1 year, 5, 10 years later, they go to, they use the paths that they started with this initial thought, and they think they need to change the path.

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Yes, they don’t like the results.

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They, they don’t like where it led them, but it’s very hard to change at that level.

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And often they have to go back to this initial thought to look at life totally differently, or specific situation totally different.

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So what you’re saying is for audience that feels stuck, they need to go back and focus on that first thought.

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That first thought on how, how they got there I like in the first place.

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So that makes me ask you, when someone realizes like they’re stuck, it can be super overwhelming to know where to start, like, what should I do?

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Who should I contact?

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What’s the first piece of guidance you can offer to help them to begin the process of just breaking free from that stuckness?

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There are different exercises people can take.

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One is, what if my best friend told me that and she was in the same situation.

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, it is surprising and amazing how many good pieces of advice we have once it’s not us.

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Yeah, yeah, it’s easy to give an advice to someone else, but when we are stuck in the same situation, it’s so hard to even make a change.

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So it’s just one of the ways,.

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The other way of the ways.

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would be To change the routine of the day.

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So for example, if we are stuck, but we always do things a certain way, you know, the start the day the same way,, take care of the family, go to work or not, you know, pick up kids, everything is the same,, for us to be able to notice things differently with intention, the best is to change it, so.

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Take even kids to school, and if there’s a few minutes, stop by, I don’t know, coffee shop you never visited, or go to like even neighborhood park that you never went to.

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What I do with my dogs, I Just basically packed into the car and I just drive to a different neighborhood because I don’t want to keep making the same rounds all the time.

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It’s nice, you know, I, I made some friends this way, but if we want to change how we see the world, it helps if we see a different world and it does not have to be overseas travel.

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I love that.

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So you’re saying if you wanna just see a different perspective, you, you, you’re basically changing your reality as well.

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You’re changing your, your reality by going into different places.

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OK, so I love that.

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If, if a listener is listening to this for the first time has no concept of what inner child is, can you walk us through what inner child is?

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, so in every each of us, it’s not only the traumatized child, for example, from certain event.

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But there is the wonder and curiosity about the world that the child has and the ability.

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To enjoy small things and maybe ability to ask for anything, you know, if they were not denied and and there is a rebellious teenager and there is a beautiful young woman or, you know, courageous young man, handsome too, that thinks that the whole world is open to them.

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So even if later on, we get different roles, they are still available to us.

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That’s a very, very powerful step because most people do not even check in with their inner child.

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They don’t even know that they have an inner child.

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that needs love and that needs support and does not want to do this next thing that this adult self is thinking, but the inner child wants to do it cause just cause it’s probably fun.

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How about Dr.

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Alex, for a lot of people, change can be super daunting, right?

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Like they don’t wanna change cause they, they know this is not good for them, like that feeling of feeling stuck.

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They know it’s not good for them, it’s probably affecting them physically, mentally.

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And especially when they don’t know like where to begin.

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They know the feeling, they know change is gonna be hard, and they just don’t know where to begin.

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So how do you help women set small and manageable goals that lead them to big transformation?

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OK, so maybe coach me on this.

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So let’s say I’m stuck right now and I’m your client, OK?

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And let’s say, and I’m just bringing, I’m just giving this by example, it’s not true.

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But let’s say I’m stuck in give me some example because it’ll be easier to work.

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OK, something smaller, could be, I’m thinking.

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All right, so I’m thinking maybe I should not travel this December.

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Because I really want to focus on my business, and usually every December I travel internationally, and this and it’s October already, and it’s coming up for me.

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So I’m like, oh, maybe I should not, you know, I feel stuck cause I’m like, I feel that I should just be working and producing more content like I usually do and post it on social media and post it on my podcast and just doing, doing, doing, and I I told my husband I’m like, I don’t think we should travel to December.

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Let’s wait till January.

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I really want to focus on working and setting, setting the stone for next year, so I’m like preparing early, but I really wanna to travel too, you know, I really want to, but I’m focusing on building my my work.

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So what steps do you recommend?

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And this is like for a woman who’s listening, who wants to build something, but she wants to also do this something else on the side.

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I mean, the first thing that comes is why you cannot have both things.

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Exactly, yeah, part of me thinks that way too.

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Mhm.

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Because we are much more efficient when we have less time and when you travel, you’re inspired to create a different content, yes, because your eyes, as you see different things and experience different things, not only you can share different awareness with others.

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But you can actually experience life differently that you’ve done so far.

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Yeah, so see you just help me by thinking instead of me thinking, let me just do my work.

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Hey, I can travel and do my work at the same time.

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Perfect.

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I’ll give you an example too, cause I get a lot of this from my clients.

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I have a client, she’s stuck in her marriage,, there’s no intimacy from her partner, she feels not seen, she feels.

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As if she’s just a roommate in the same house.

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How would we help her?

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Because she feels stuck in the marriage and she does not, and she cannot talk to her husband because she feels every time I talk to him, he gets very angry and she’ll just she’ll just keep quiet.

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OK.

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So I would ask what is to think that she wants the most.

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She wants more love and appreciation from her husband.

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OK, so the problem is when you start thinking that certain person should give something to you, because you really cannot change other people, but she can have love, and I’m not saying she’s gonna have an affair.

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Yes, she can experience love in many different ways.

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I think when she is in that situation, she also in a way, feels like she does not deserve love.

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She needs to ask for love, and it’s not given, and I would say it goes most likely to this inner child.

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I mean, the work would be with her, yes, because so many paths can be taken.

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I would say for her to create a picture of herself.

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That is happy, lovable, loved, and in love, joyful, and just resonate with this picture and see when she’s able to channel that, we can say it’s channeling future self, know the feeling.

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Then see if anything else she sees there for herself.

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So she can, because her being happy and being loved and being loved will create.

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The life that will fulfill her dreams in a way outside, although she may not even need that much shift in her current life, but then she, that’s one of the choices she can make.

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So, a lot of women that I see, they also struggle with prioritizing themselves, and I think we talked about this in the last podcast where we talked about women get burnt out easily.

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And because they, they don’t prioritize themselves, because they’re used to putting others first, including me, I know I’ve done this like over and over again.

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How can we shift that mindset and start focusing on our own growth without guilt?

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So one of the techniques will be sold the inner child, yeah, please, because if you’re a mama of 2 or 3 and you just imagine there was a 4th 1 and she has her rights.

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, I think that might be just the easiest,, from the mom’s perspective, a lot of things is easier if we shift thinking as kids grow.

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I mean, we are role models, so not only the typical thing, you know, that mom that deserves respect and help and also the role for the for the daughters, yes.

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Because,, as much as we want to teach kids anything, they will learn from what we do.

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I think a lot of women who sacrifice themselves.

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If they could imagine the emotion of sacrifice as being part of the space in their home that kids see every day, with all the heaviness of it, they may change what they do, because kids naturally will see mom suffering and If they cannot help, they almost take some of the suffering on themselves.

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Yeah, they try to process the emotion for the mom, and that can become their own burden for the rest of their lives.

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So can you elaborate a like a step, a practical step that A mom or a woman that’s giving her life away to others, what can she do?

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I think acknowledging that we don’t have 24 hours in a day.

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, yeah, so when we still had paper prescriptions and seeing that the woman was just overwhelmed with life, I would just write, especially with small kids, and I would just write prescriptions saying that she needs 30 minutes.

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To herself a day.

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Oh wow, really?

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You would do that for your clients?

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That’s amazing.

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So you would write prescriptions.

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That’s great, so she can just show it to her husband.

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So, that’s what you’re saying.

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-huh.

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So that was, so what was really interesting about it is was that the relief that woman had when I’ve done it.

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Because it only with my permission.

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They could actually take 30 minutes and And they for themselves.

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Oh my goodness.

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That’s, you know, that’s the society we still live in.

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Yeah, there are so many independent women out there, there are so many empowered women, but then some women deep down still need permission to take a break, and probably they need permission from someone else to not feel stuck and go to the other side of the fence.

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So, my last question to you.

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I Can you walk us through maybe one small step for anyone that’s listening who’s now ready to make a change?

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She knows that she’s, you know, she wants to get there, whatever that means for her.

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It’s maybe a new relationship, a new marriage, it could be traveling, it could be money.

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What one small step can this woman take after listening to our podcast today?

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OK, so I would like everyone to close their eyes if they can, or where they are.

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, me too, I’m doing it right now.

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And just feel the energy around you, the peace, unconditional love.

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Acceptance, joy, and now you see a banner.

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Saying everything is possible.

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Wow, I see it.

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And you may think, oh, it’s too much.

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So I’m just asking you to ask your 7 years old what she would like more in this life now and put it in the He that is just under the banner.

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Just,, the, the heart has many shelves.

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So you’re just gonna put it on one of the shelves and she can just return to her spa and I would like you to imagine.

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Your teenager, maybe high school time.

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What was she dreaming about?

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What was she doing maybe at that time that was kind of disappeared from your life.

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If you could put that on another shelf in that heart, then As she returns to her spot, yourself.

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At the beginning of your professional life, whatever it was, what were your hopes?

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What did you want to achieve?

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How quickly you wanted to get there?

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Some of it most likely happened if there is one thing.

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That you promised yourself then, and it’s still not part of your professional life.

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You could just bring it to one of the shells in the heart.

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Once you return.

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I would like you to imagine your outer self, adult self.

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The one at the beginning of the current relationship journey, if it’s marriage, partnership, being a mom, something that really brought you joy and the little gem.

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If you could just show it to yourself and put it on one of the shelves in the heart as you come back to your spot, remember you saw all of them and everything that happened in between.

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And whatever you choose from now on, if it makes you feel good, that is most likely the right choice.

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Thank you.

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You can come back.

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Wow, my shelves were full of a lot of things.

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This is great.

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Thank you so much, Doctor Alex.

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It was wonderful having you here and leading us through not being stuck and then moving to the other side of the fence and what’s possible.

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So I’m sure our audience will love this, and to all of our listeners, always remember metamorphosis, not medication, and a mistake.

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For all of our listeners, if you have any questions and you really want the answers for it, then feel free to book a 20 minute free consultation with me.

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Thank you so much and see you on another episode.