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Welcome everyone to another episode of Supercharge Your Soul’s Transformation podcast.

I have a question from one of my clients who asked, “Why do I feel so down when people don’t appreciate me?”

And here is my answer.

In today’s podcast, we are going to talk about why it matters when you do not appreciate yourself. If people are not appreciating you and that brings on feelings of low self-worth, sadness, anger, or even self-hatred, there is a reason why you’re feeling this way—so keep listening.

The answer to the question, “Why do you feel so down when people don’t appreciate you?” is this: If your boss, partner, children, or anyone does not appreciate you, and their words hurt you, bringing you down, here’s what I need you to do.

Step one: You need to understand how it feels. What feelings are coming up in your body? Sit with the feeling because if you don’t, you will perpetuate this cycle of not feeling good enough. The universe is showing you signs that when people don’t appreciate you and it really affects you, it’s because you do not appreciate who you truly are.

When you do not appreciate who you truly are, anyone’s words will affect you personally. For example, if someone once told me I was fat (this happened years ago), it really affected me. I was so sad and when I looked in the mirror, I only saw my flaws. Of course, I was 200 pounds at the time, but hearing it from someone else made it hurt more. So what did I do? I went to the gym.

The first step is to understand: Do you resonate with what they are saying? Because if you truly believe you are fat (or anything else someone criticizes), it’s going to affect you. So if someone doesn’t appreciate you and it hurts, sit with the feeling. Notice how it feels. Journal it if needed—write down “I am feeling horrible.” Allow yourself to feel the emotions. If tears come, let them flow. These emotions are there for a reason, and they need to be processed.

Once you sit with your feelings and allow them to move through you, your mood will gradually improve. Then you can question the validity of what was said: Is this even true? Half the time, if you don’t believe something about yourself, whatever they said won’t hold true for you.

For example, if I felt fit, lean, and healthy and someone called me fat, I would respond, “That’s what you think, but I’m fit.” But if it hurts, it’s because you believe it too. So step two is to question it and notice how you feel in your body.

Step three: If you don’t like what was said, ask yourself, what are you doing to change your circumstances? If someone calls you fat, what steps are you taking to change that? When I was overweight, I joined a gym and hired a personal trainer, even though I hated some of the workouts. I took the first step, and that’s what matters. Sometimes, the first step isn’t even physical—it might just be acknowledging, “Yeah, I’ve gained some weight.” Then ask yourself, how did I get here?

When I asked myself that, I realized it was because of my unhealthy eating habits. Once you question how you got here, it helps you figure out the next steps to change. Remember, what got you here won’t get you to where you want to be.

Those are my three tips for you when you feel sad or underappreciated. First, find out what you’re telling yourself every day. If you’re telling yourself the same things others are saying, it’s going to hurt because you believe it. So question it.

And here’s a bonus tip—change the way you talk to yourself. If you’re constantly engaging in negative self-talk, it perpetuates the cycle of feeling underappreciated. I’ve had to cut people out of my life who constantly talk negatively because it’s toxic energy, and I need to protect my energy.

So recognize how you’re talking to yourself. The universe will mirror your thoughts—if you think you’re fat, people will reflect that back to you. If you think you’re in a bad relationship, the universe will send you more of that energy.

So my fourth tip is: Be aware of your self-talk. Your negative self-talk is perpetuating your current cycle of feeling underappreciated.

These are my four steps for you. I hope they help you change your course. If you enjoyed this episode, please give us a review. And if you’re listening on YouTube, don’t forget to follow and share with someone who needs to hear this.

I’ll see you next time. Until then, peace and love—remember, metamorphosis, not medication. Namaste.

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Thank you so much, and see you on another episode.