Dimple Bindra

This Question is For You

Have you ever felt like you’re living out someone else’s story, stuck in roles you didn’t choose? Maybe you’ve paused, mid-action, mid-decision, and thought, “Why do I react this way?” The answers could be buried in the hidden story of your past.

The Roles We Play

You might be the Helper, always putting others’ needs first, driven by an unconscious need to be needed. Or perhaps you’re the Controller, gripping life’s control so tightly, terrified that letting go even a bit will lead to chaos. Maybe you are the Perfectionist, chasing the impossible dream of flawlessness, convinced that anything less is failure.

Maybe you are the Achiever, constantly striving for success, always chasing the next milestone as if your worth depends on your accomplishments? Or do you identify as the Empath, so attuned to others’ emotions that you neglect your own, craving harmony at any cost?

These roles, shaped by childhood experiences, aren’t just passive traits; they’re the invisible strings guiding your actions, decisions, and reactions. They shape your relationships, dictate your career choices, and even influence your financial habits. You’re living a story scripted long ago, but it doesn’t have to stay that way. Let me give you few examples and ask yourself if you find any similarities below:

1. The Helper

Imagine Sarah, a mid-level manager at a tech company. She’s always the first to volunteer for extra projects, often working late to help her team meet deadlines. Her colleagues rely on her, and she takes pride in being the go-to person. But Sarah’s drive to help stems from a deeper need to feel valued. She fears that saying “no” might lead to rejection or disappointment. This pattern, while making her indispensable, often leaves her feeling exhausted and overlooked for promotions because she’s seen as a support rather than a leader.

The problem that I have seen over and over again, (including my mom) is that they forget to care about themselves and mostly suffer from health challenges, because their operating system of thought process is focusing on other’s demands and needs. And you know that there is no shortage of takers in our society.

2. The Controller

Meet Lisa, a senior executive in a fast-paced marketing firm. She’s known for her meticulous planning and hands-on approach. Every project detail passes through her scrutiny. Lisa’s need for control is rooted in a fear of chaos and failure. She believes that if she doesn’t manage every aspect, things will fall apart. This relentless grip on control creates tension with her team, who feel micromanaged and stifled, and prevents her from delegating effectively, limiting her career growth.

The problem with this pattern is that these kinda people are filled with anxiety, hyper vigilance and constant nervous system stimulation and they can’t relax their mind or body.

3. The Perfectionist

Consider Emily, a high-performing analyst at a financial institution. She spends countless hours perfecting her reports, double-checking every figure, and ensuring every presentation is flawless. Emily’s pursuit of perfection is driven by a fear of criticism and failure. She equates mistakes with incompetence. While her attention to detail is commendable, it often leads to burnout and delays, impacting her productivity and work-life balance. Emily’s perfectionism also makes her overly critical of herself and others, straining workplace relationships.

People who fall into this pattern often have elevated cortisol levels, putting their body into overdrive. This can lead to further issues such as pre-diabetes, diabetes, and chronic pain throughout the body.

4. The Achiever

Then there’s Nathan, a driven project manager in a consulting firm. He measures his worth by his achievements, always setting higher goals and pushing himself to exceed them. Nathan’s identity is tied to his success. He constantly seeks validation through accomplishments, fearing that without them, he’s insignificant. This relentless pursuit leads to stress and a lack of fulfillment, as he rarely takes time to enjoy his successes. Nathan’s need to achieve often causes to prioritize work over personal life, impacting his overall happiness and well-being.

People like Nathan can feel high stress and lack of downtime which can manifest physically, leading to health issues such as hypertension, headaches, digestive issues, insomnia, and even a weakened immune system.

5. The Empath

Finally, meet Anna, a human resources specialist known for her empathy and people skills. She’s the office confidante, always ready to listen and offer support. Anna’s ability to tune into others’ emotions makes her highly valued but also vulnerable. She often absorbs the stress and emotions of her colleagues, neglecting her own needs. This can lead to emotional exhaustion and burnout. Anna’s desire to maintain harmony sometimes prevents her from addressing conflicts directly, which can undermine her effectiveness in her role.

Being an empath can lead to feelings of depression, as being overly attuned to other’s emotions often makes it difficult to separate their feelings from our own. This sensitivity can increase vulnerability to anxiety and depressive symptoms, as empaths may struggle to distinguish their own emotions from those they absorb from others.

Rewriting Your STORY

Listen, understanding these patterns is the first step to breaking free. Recognize that you might be acting out a role that doesn’t truly align with who you are. You don’t have to blame yourself or anyone else; but instead simply gain insight into why you do what you do.

I want you to imagine the freedom of making choices based on your present desires and future dreams, not past programming. Just think about the possibility of genuine connections you could build when your relationships aren’t dictated by unconscious roles.

So now that we know the unconscious patterns –

Are you ready to uncover the personality patterns that have been silently steering your life? The journey to self-discovery is powerful. It allows you to see beyond the roles you’ve been playing and offers a glimpse of who you could be without them. It’s a path that leads to understanding, healing, and ultimately, a more authentic way of living.

Let’s Get Real

The script of your life’s movie needs an author and that is YOU. It’s not too late to start a new chapter. Wanna get onboard together, exploring the depths of who you are and who you have the potential to become?

Then I want you to Forget the Helper, the Perfectionist, the Controller, the Achiever, and the Empath. If you stumbled upon this article, it is time to discover the real you.

Are you ready to break free from the unconscious patterns and take control of your life?

Then I invite you to join me and let me help you.

Btw if you don’t know me – My name is Dimple Bindra and my path to becoming a Spiritual Coach was not just a career choice. It was a survival strategy turned into a life mission.

Plagued by childhood abuse, severe depression, and debilitating health issues, I once felt engulfed by hopelessness. Yet, the universe had other plans for me. By divine serendipity, I wandered into a yoga class that became the first step towards reclaiming my life.

Over the past 14 years, nestled in the vibrant SF Bay Area, CA, I’ve had the profound privilege of working alongside esteemed physicians, leveraging my expertise as a Yoga and Meditation Coach and Medical Intuitive.

I don’t wanna brag about myself but, I’ve been honored as the “Best Yoga Instructor” in Milpitas, California for five consecutive years from 2012 to 2017, a testament to my dedication to not just teach yoga but to spread its transformative power within tech giants like Google HealthCisco PartnersLinkedInMetaTech MahindraVMware and so many more. I have helped over 1000 professionals release trauma & get unstuck and I wanna get to know you.

If you need help in letting go of these deep rooted patterns, I invite you to – Book a FREE 30 MIN Consultation With Me


Lots of Love,

Dimple