
Why do we hold on to what we know, even when it hurts us? Because it feels safe!
As humans, we’re creatures of habit. We tend to stick with what’s familiar, even if it brings us pain. There’s a comfort in the predictable, even when that predictability is uncomfortable or unhealthy.
This is why so many of us stay in relationships that bring us down long after we realize they’re bad for us, why we keep returning to jobs that drain our energy year after year, and why we often silence our needs instead of asking for what we truly want. We convince ourselves that it’s easier to accept things as they are rather than face the fear of the unknown.
Why Do We Cling to What Is Familiar (Yet Unhealthy)?
Take my client, for example. She found herself repeatedly attracted to toxic men, always getting hurt in the same way. It wasn’t until she began her journey of healing that she realized her choices reflected her unresolved pain. She felt safer with what she knew, those familiar patterns—even though they were unhealthy. The thought of stepping into a healthier relationship felt too risky.
“The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.” — Hubert H. Humphrey
Many people, like her, stay in painful situations because they fear being alone or worry they won’t find anything better. The pain they know can seem more comforting than the uncertainty of something new. This fear of the unknown can grip us tightly. Even if there’s a chance that a new experience could be better, trusting that possibility feels daunting.
Our minds often spiral into “what if” scenarios that amplify our fears: “What if I end up worse off?” or “What if I don’t know how to handle this new situation?” These questions create a false sense of security, making it feel safer to stay stuck in a situation that drains us.
Our nervous systems are wired to protect us, even if that means choosing a familiar struggle over the chance for something better.
I can relate to this feeling. I’ve been drawn to emotionally unavailable and toxic relationships myself, knowing they weren’t good for me. I recognized the red flags but still stuck with what I knew. That chaos felt safer than stepping into the unknown of a healthier relationship.
“Turn your wounds into wisdom” – Oprah Winfrey
Over time, I realized this behavior wasn’t weakness, it was my nervous system trying to keep me ‘safe’ by clinging to what felt familiar. A wise person once described their life as a hamster wheel they couldn’t get off—running in circles without realizing they were the ones spinning it through their choices.
But here’s the powerful truth:
👉🏻 You have a choice.
👉🏻 You are making choices right now.
👉🏻 You are reading this for a reason.
So, let me ask you this:
- What’s holding you back from stepping into a life that truly makes you happy?
- What can you do today to start making healthier choices for your mind, body and spirit?
Here’s the truth—your career growth is directly tied to your personal well-being. When you practice self-love, you’re not just nurturing yourself; you’re setting the stage for success in every area of your life.
Why? Because self-love helps you break free from the limiting patterns that keep you stuck. It empowers you to create healthier relationships, make clearer decisions, and step into opportunities with confidence.
Self-love can look like setting boundaries to protect your time and energy, recognizing your worth so you no longer settle for less, or taking a single step toward healing and personal growth.
Yes, change is uncomfortable, but it’s in that discomfort that transformation and growth occur—both personally and professionally.
When you focus on self-love, you start to show up differently in your career.
You radiate confidence, clarity, and purpose. You attract better opportunities and cultivate stronger connections because you’ve aligned with what you truly deserve.
Your career growth doesn’t start with a promotion or a new job title—it starts with you.
Make the choice today to invest in yourself, love yourself, and believe in your potential. The life and career you deserve are waiting for you to step into them.

Btw if you don’t know me – My name is Dimple Bindra and my path to becoming a Spiritual Coach was not just a career choice. It was a survival strategy turned into a life mission.
Plagued by childhood abuse, severe depression, and debilitating health issues, I once felt engulfed by hopelessness. Yet, the universe had other plans for me. By divine serendipity, I wandered into a yoga class that became the first step towards reclaiming my life.
Over the past 14 years, nestled in the vibrant SF Bay Area, CA, I’ve had the profound privilege of working alongside esteemed physicians, leveraging my expertise as a Yoga and Meditation Coach and Medical Intuitive.
I don’t wanna brag about myself but, I’ve been honored as the “Best Yoga Instructor” in Milpitas, California for five consecutive years from 2012 to 2017, a testament to my dedication to not just teach yoga but to spread its transformative power within tech giants like Google Health, Cisco Partners, LinkedIn, Meta, Tech Mahindra, VMware and so many more. I have helped over 1000 professionals release trauma & get unstuck and I wanna get to know you.
If you need help in letting go of these deep rooted patterns, I invite you to – Book a FREE 30 MIN Consultation With Me
Lots of Love,
Dimple